Writing from the heart
To be honest I was stumped at what my first entry would be for Starting With You. I could have found some research papers and written about success stories from Life Coaching and Mentoring but thought that would be incredibly boring and unauthentic.
Instead I have chosen to write from my heart.
My vision has always been clear on helping people, helping them go deep within, talking about things they have never spoken about before. Things that scare them, things that ignite them, things that make them feel alive, things deep down inside we don’t often want to talk about in fear of judgment or ridicule.
To create a safe space for people to offload without feeling vulnerable or exposed.
Through my Life Coaching studies, I am becoming more aware as a woman and mother the need to feel connected to ourselves and to the people we place in high regard, such as our friendships and families.
It is now more than ever we need to connect. We are bamboozled by negative images, emotional projections of fear from others, anxiety and rage.
Our world is in a place that it has never been before. Why are we not offloading? Perhaps it is because we feel that people don’t care? Maybe it’s because we feel we are too open and exposed to other people’s judgements? Or is it because we avoid being a hindrance to others? Perhaps we have tried before and the reaction we got was not what we wanted?
Does any of this sound familiar?
In school they teach an abundance of subjects; some interesting, some rather boring. I have always wondered why they don’t teach life skills in school. When I say life skills, I am talking about emotional intelligence and growth. How to be connected and centred with ourselves.
Have you ever heard the phrase ‘teaching resilience building?’ How do you teach resilience building?
From experience, resilience isn’t something to be taught but it is most definitely something to be learned. It is simply allowing us to sit in the discomfort rather than avoiding it.
We build resilience from making mistakes, from not fitting in, from physically and emotionally hurting ourselves. Through enduring hardships, all the things that parents try to protect their children from (me included), however I believe this can be an incredible disservice to resilience building.
I’m not encouraging you all to go out and hurt yourselves in anyway shape or form, however I am encouraging you to take note next time you feel pain. Recognise where it sits in your body and notice if and how it is affecting your relationships, your mood, your school life and your family life.
How has this played out before? Just notice that’s all.